#PDDayMOM

My kids had (ANOTHER) PD day today.

At 7:30 AM everyone came piling into my bed asking to immediately hit their electronics. I said no. Too early. At least get dressed first. Eat some breakfast.

My husband got up and ready for work and came back to give us all kisses goodbye and get us out of bed. The kids, who not 5 minutes earlier wanted to be playing Fortnite and watching TroomTroom videos, whined and said, “But it’s a PD day, we want to sleep in.”

And then my daughter said :

“Oh Mom, everyday is a PD day for you.”

And that is when I realized that I will never win.

If I am a stay at home parent, every day is a PD day and apparently all I do is “go shopping and out for lunch and to the gym”. If I am a work out of the home parent, then everyone complains that I am not home enough and spending too much time away from the family. If I want to do anything to further my writing or professional life in any way, it’s up to me to fit it in to the family schedule without disrupting the status quo. Balance is a myth, having it all is a myth, personal fulfilment in this life dichotomy is a double-edged sword and the pointy end is always aimed at my heart.

I know I am in the VERY privileged situation of not having to work, and believe me, I do not take that for granted, but I am not sure where I have gone so wrong that my kids think that literally EVERYTHING I do is akin to an all-day-every-day-free-for-all-grown-up-PD-day.

I’m not going to list off all the things I do here, because if you are a woman and also a mother, you know what that list looks like. You have THE LIST. It’s a devil’s list. You know, one where you never ever cross off all the items on it, because more things just keep getting added to the bottom and it is never ending! AND, apparently, this list and all of the items you’ve crossed off and accomplished are also invisible to the people in your life.

And people wonder why mothers become these uber-pinterest or Instagram perfect moms. UMMM, HELLO!!!! IT’S BECAUSE WE NEED SOME RECOGNITION FOR ALL WE DO AND WE ARE NOT GETTING IT AT HOME!

Case in point: I have spent the last 3 months looking for the perfect winter season duvet cover for our master bedroom. Last week I finally found it, bought it, made the bed, and posted a picture of it on Instagram and it was the most liked thing I’ve posted all month! On the other hand, the response from my dear spouse was, “Why did we need a new duvet cover?” and from Ten it was, “Well, it’s not very festive.” So you see… LITERAL STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET CARE MORE ABOUT THE THINGS I DO TO MAKE THIS HOUSE A HOME THAN MY OWN FAMILY!

So next time you see a mom post before and after pictures of her messy/tidied house, her clean and folded laundry, or her redecorated family room YOU WILL LIKE AND <3 THE CRAP OUT OF THAT POST BECAUSE THAT WOMAN NEEDS TO BE SEEN AND APPRECIATED! Next time a mom posts a long list of all the errands she ran and the seemingly small yet many jobs she got done that day, YOU WILL CONGRATULATE HER AND GIVE HER A VIRTUAL HIGH FIVE AND TELL HER WHAT A GAWTDAMN ROCKSTAR SHE IS!

We’ve got to do this for each other ladies. Because contrary to popular belief, even that of our own little flesh and blood sweet baby angel children (demons), MOMS DO NOT GET PD DAYS!

I SEE YOU SUPER MAMAS!

Eff everyone else.

N~

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full of thanks

In the spirit of American Thanksgiving (or you know, the cultural genocide of a whole indigenous people WHO WERE THERE FIRST DAMMIT!), here are a few things I am thankful for this week:

I love my bedroom so much!   #myliteralhappyplace

I love my bedroom so much! #myliteralhappyplace

  • Clean sheet day combined with new duvet cover day! I can’t wait to go to bed.

  • Spending about $100 less than usual on groceries because I went to the Real Canadian Wholesale Club for the first time tonight and I think it may be my new favourite place for food shopping because they also have other cool things like mega packs of post-it notes and more vegan options than Costco and both my other regular stores!

  • Buying well made clothing from local companies like Gus Sloan, because Lauren is amazing and she let me come and try on all the LBJs (Little Black Jumpsuits) until I found the perfect one for me! Pics to come shortly - because I am short and needed it hemmed! Until then, check out her website and if you are on the hunt for an easy to dress up outfit for all those upcoming holiday parties, the Limited Edition Holiday LBJ is the perfect solution to this problem!

  • All the Black Friday emails from every list or shop or whatever-have-you I have ever subscribed to - BECAUSE I AM UNSUBSCRIBING FROM IT ALL ON SATURDAY!

  • A solid plan for Christmas celebrations with both of our families, that includes everyone and, fingers crossed, keeps everyone happy! (Now to get a certain someone on board with my need for a new “upstairs” tree! I’ve got my eye on something like this!)

This one from Michael’s  would be PERFECT!

This one from Michael’s would be PERFECT!

Now, I hope all your dinners went off without too may hitches, no one got into a fist fight over politics, you hugged and laughed and loved all of your peoples, and everyone realized how very fortunate we are to have the things we have (food, shelter, loved ones).

Now, I am off to that gorgeous bed to snuggle my gorgeous partner and sleep a glorious sleep!

Goodnight.

XOXO,

N~

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I’m taking part in National Blog Posting Month, which means I’m posting on this blog {almost} every day throughout November. You can follow along and see who else is posting this month by checking out these hashtags on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter: #NetPositiveBlog and #NaBloPoMo.

soul medicine

Music takes me to good places.

Places where I move, and I am moved, and then cry, and love, and remember, and then cry some more.

Music can also gets me out of a bad place, and for various reasons, this week, I’ve been in some bad places. Sad places, mad places, places that make me want to curl up and not participate in the regularly scheduled program that is my life. (You get that these “places” are in my mind right?)

Today I wanted out of those places.

And so this day is brought to you by two albums I have been listening to on repeat all damn day long.

The first is the re-imagined soundtrack of The Greatest Showman. A beautiful movie, incredibly well-done, about a super-duper problematic white dude who abused and exploited many of his performers and animals.

AND RIGHT NOW I DON’T CARE ABOUT THAT, because I LOVE this soundtrack. These reimagined tracks, recorded by various wonderful artists is SUPERB! I am particularly in love with the Panic! at the Disco version of “The Greatest Show”, Pink’s ‘A Million Dreams” and the Missy Elliot/Kesha/Keala Settle version of “This is Me”. I mean, talk about personal theme songs!

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Album number two is of course, the soundtrack from A Star is Born. I mean, come on! THIS MOVIE! I cried so much and I loved it so much and I want Bradley Cooper’s Jackson Maine to be my personal folk/country/rock singer boyfriend FOREVER! I literally fought with my music industry professional brother-in-law this past weekend when he deigned to try to tell me that Bradley didn’t play the guitar in the movie or sing and record the vocals live. I TOTALLY WON THAT ONE - because no one messes with my make-believe, messed-up, drunken, country/folk/rock singing, guitar playing boyfriend!

And GAGA was a GAWDAMMN phenomenon in this movie. A vision, a star, a freaking super NOVA. Umm, yeah, so…

I’m a bit of a fan-girl.

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It worked.

Like it always does.

Music is like medicine for my soul and today I needed a big IV bag full of that medicine delivered straight to my insides. (via my lovely Bose noise-cancelling headphones - good gawd do I ever love these things!)

Happy listening people.

Remember to take your soul medicine!

N~

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I’m taking part in National Blog Posting Month, which means I’m posting on this blog {almost} every day throughout November. You can follow along and see who else is posting this month by following these hashtags on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter: #NetPositiveBlog and #NaBloPoMo.