Feminist Fare Friday: The Comeback Edition

It's baaaa--aaack!

You know you've missed it. I know I have missed compiling these round-ups of the best feminist writing of the week. And yes, I know, I could just post the articles on Facebook and leave it at that, but come on, tell the truth. How many links do you save and then never go back and read? If you are anything like me, there are a lot, and then FB reminds me that I haven't read them yet and makes me feel bad about myself for not following through. 


Not so with #FeministFareFriday. It's all curated and collected right here for you to peruse at your leisure, and I promise I won't badger you about it. 

Anywhoo.... today's Feminist Fare is brought to you by this oldie, but a goodie from Jay Smooth. 



1. Alicen Grey wrote this piece on Medium in response to another one she wrote about male feminists... And you can probably guess where THAT ONE went in the comments.#notallmen #YESallmen

I understand why women don’t want to challenge men this directly. We share this planet with them. And there aren’t many things scarier than the prospect that half the human population can’t be trusted.
Also: we love men. We don’t just love men, we loooo0Ooooo00OOooooOOOoo0ove men. They’re our brothers, our fathers, our uncles, our sons, our friends, our partners, our mentors….
But, as James Baldwin so strikingly put it, “If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.”

2. Almost everything that Rebecca Woolf, aka GirlsGoneChild, writes has me sitting up straighter in my chair, and nodding along in righteous agreement. This #backtoschool piece over at Mom.me is no different.

There has always been an assumption in my community—which is, btw, as privileged as it is progressive — that “when the kids go back to school” moms are FREE to throw parties, day drink and relish in their alone time, and while this might very well be the case for some, I do not know a single mom/woman for whom this is the case. So, I would like to talk for a minute about what we—men AND women—can do to put a stop to this antiquated logic. STOP THE MADNESS, GUYS! YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN THIS! I KNOW YOU CAN!

3. Things you don't want to do in this life.... Piss off Alexandra Petri at the Washington Post. Because if you do, she is then going to write the most epic response to your DUMBASS "advice" for how to talk to women wearing headphones.

Yesterday half your comrades were ordered to shout “Smile!” at the Woman Who Is Walking.
And the woman did. Too wide.
So wide that her mouth engulfed the street and became a vast cavern.
Six of your friends were devoured.

**I really need this piece to be turned into some kind of spoken word performance ART!!**

4.  SO MANY VAGENDA OF MANOCIDE JOKES! (That a lot of dudes didn't seem to get....hmmmm.) I liked Sara Schaefer's the best. It's going to be a busy day!!

9:30 pm. Apply lavender oil to temples, crawl into bed. Snuggle under your hemp percale sheets; set your noise machine to “crickets+men crying.” Fall asleep censoring male speech online.

5.  I've saved what I think is the best for last. Because never, in all my years on the internet, have two sentences spoken to me so strongly as these ones that Asher Wolf wrote in her post, "Fuck You, I'd Spit in Your Cupcakes" .

Women don’t lose themselves in motherhood; society loses them. Feminism loses the voices of women who become mothers.

Bonus post: I love when The Oatmeal writes/draws these kinds of posts.... because, yeah, I too am perfectly unhappy. I think we should embrace this philosphy more, I bet we'd all be a bit happier. Ummm wait, I mean...

Oh, whatever, you'll get it!

Love ya kids.