It is 10 PM and I have 2 hours to get this post published! This post is about Natural Urban Dad. More specifically about the two of us. And Social Media. And how it all fits together. Sort of. I tend to throw myself into everything I do whole-heartedly. Social Media is no exception. I love connecting with my followers and those I follow both on Facebook and on Twitter. I have met some amazing people through these sites and have some great relationships with these folks both online and in real life.
Here is the problem. My relationship with my one TRUE fan is suffering. And it all came to a head this past weekend.
We have not had the most fabulous 2011 so far. I have been laid up twice since January with injury or surgery and our household routine was basically thrown out the window because of this. And not to mention that recovering from two consecutive leg injuries does not make it easy to be uhm....sexy.... with your husband, so there is that too.
So, here is what a typical day has looked like for a while around here.
gets woken up at 6 AM every day by a toddler looking for a boobwakes up.
Make breakfast for the kids, get everyone dressed, check email/Facebook/Twitter while kids are eating.
Forget to eat MY breakfast.
Take C to school.
Come home or head to Cafe O'Play for 1.5 hours so L can play and I can blog/update SEO/add website content.
Pick up C from school.
Home for lunch and some playtime.
Naptime for the kids (yes, they both still nap)!!
Back ONLINE to check Twitter/Facebook and answer messages and emails.
Kids get up, more playtime.
Get dinner ready.
Natural Urban Dad comes home and kids attack him and then go crazy for an hour!! (Does this happen to everyone's kids at this witching hour?)
Cajole and bribe 4 year old and 2 year old toEat Dinner.
Bathtime and bedtime routine.
try to stay up and find every excuse possible not togo to sleep.
Natural Urban Dad walks the dog.
I grab my computer and engage and check in with my Facebook and Twitter community for chats and the rush hour(s) of online traffic.
Or we watch TV and I have my iPhone beside me to stay 'connected' to everyone online so I don't 'miss' anything.
Natural Urban Dad goes to bed.
I do not, for at least another hour. I work and write and tweet and I like to watch Jon Stewart on The Daily Show at midnight.
And then I go to bed.
So, as you can clearly see, I need to do better here. I need to realize who and what my priorities are and be present for my family and for my husband FIRST.
Here is part of the problem as I see it. Natural Urban Dad does not GET social media. Yes, he has a Facebook account, but he checks it maybe once a month. He does not get that what I am doing on Twitter and on Facebook is working, he hears me laughing at a tweet or watching a YouTube video that someone posted and to him it looks like I am just having fun (with everyone else but him).
Social Media is about making connections, building relationships and growing your brand. It truly is networking gold for small business owners, especially those not afraid to JUMP right in!
But here it is...
You need to use it RIGHT! I personally need to start setting limits for myself and sticking to them. You can read a whole slew of other great tips here for managing your time online. Natural Urban Dad and I had a big LONG
intervention talk about all of this the other night and we have some new grown-up rules that we are going to be applying around here (dedicated US time every night, a strict bedtime together and a ban on anyone being online during family time).
I leave you now with this video. It is bloody hilarious and hit a little too close to home for me this week.
And it is now bedtime, so I bid you all a very good night.
Now, after you read this of course....turn of your computer/iPad/iPhone/BB and GO to bed and hug your spouse/partner/kid/dog!